3 Main Qualities as a Great Communicator

By Erwin Parengkuan

In an online session with several leaders recently Today, one of the leaders complained about losing the personality he already had first because after realizing it turned out that the "pressure" in the office had made him become a different person.He then reflected and expressed this up front online forums.I was also sad to hear the honesty of the story.I am compare with myself, who just takes life lightly, and remain as is.Not because I'm problem-free, because there aren't any There is not a single person in this world who is free from problems.As long as we are still open eyes, of course problems will come and go.I can be whatever I am because I always remember my late father's words "as long as you don't do it wrong, don't hurt the person you're talking to, don't ever be afraid of your child!"

When someone is too troubled by life's problems, work problems, we then become like robots, aka templates like slides presentations that can be taken freely anywhere.It's a shame when someone have no awareness of self-growth.Have no control over himself and manage it (self management).Honestly, the more I look here many people are having more and more problems with themselves, if you say it's because of Covid, Isn't it true that more than 7 billion people in this world also experience the same thing? you?anxious, worried about the future, what if it gets infected?how about my job, my family?that's just one of the examples I gave to open this article.The best answer is that we all should have full awareness like Talkinc's birthday theme this time "AM I Fully Awake?" Are you also aware?What is the purpose of life?Because everyone has it awareness will determine/get the answer: why do I live in the world this?What's the goal?What do I want?When all questions get you answer, you will be Authentic as you are.That's the first quality of the title my writing.If we are not authentic, it will certainly be difficult to live life this.If we are too cruel, we will get caught up in something very general In communicating, there is nothing that differentiates us from most people. And the person you are talking to wants you to be an authentic person, not fake, Moreover, there is a hidden agenda!

The absolute second quality after someone returns find himself through the process of contemplation, selftalk, meditation, relaxation.Me time etc.We can see ourselves more comprehensively, namely building relationship with the word Relevant!Relevant means meeting the opponent's expectations talk, according to their expectations, not going off track, giving answers required and following applicable ethical rules (common sense and common ground).A friend told me that his oldest aunt was deep a mourning event at the cemetery, asked to give a eulogy to all family and relations who come.Unfortunately, the aunt didn't speak about the loss experienced by the family, but even talking about how grateful he is to have a support system in the business he runs, Coincidentally, some of the support systems he was referring to were also at the event the burial.Proof that when we can speak in public, we don't participate Immediately everyone can become relevant.The key is analytical thinking, the ability to read existing situations (common sense) and convey narrative that matches the expectations of the interlocutor.The more I observe In every class, situations like this keep appearing.A leader who Opened yesterday's webinar, talked at length, very normative, no no insight and very irrelevant, poor thing!This guy seems to be enjoying himself in his world without realizing what is happening in the environment where he is.

The final quality is Connection.Well, this requires lots of practice, after we focus on the 2 important qualities above, now It's time to learn to train yourself by looking through the "eyes" of the person you are talking to, isn't it? from our point of view.Because it will definitely be subjective or not can connect with the person you are talking to.Practice lowering your ego when speaking is the key, to see from their perspective, what they are need.Don't dominate the conversation, listen with both ears you, that's what is called the art of building relationships with active listening.If we could always stay connected with our audience you will definitely win them hearts.And again, in communication one thing to remember, it's not about you, it's about them!