Ego and Impact in Communication

Oleh : Erwin Parengkuan (TALKINC Founder & Facilitator)

Bicara mengenai ego merupakan sebuah kondisi yang sulit, kenapa? Hal ini dikarenakan semua orang memilikinya dan sangat jarang ditemui orang-orang yang mampu mengendalikannya. Padahal tujuannya adalah supaya kita bisa Legowo, atau dalam bahasa Jawa artinya rela, lapang dada, tidak ada perasaan menggajal hati atau ikhlas dalam bahasa Indonesia. Kenapa sulit ya? Karena setiap dari kita mempunyai jumlah penghargaan atas diri dengan kadar dari masing-masing orang yang berbeda-beda dan dampak yang akan terjadipun berbeda-beda dalam mereka menjalankan kehidupannya.

Can you imagine if someone talked and often talked only about themselves?I immediately felt like covering my ears.Not to mention he doesn't want to give in or be defeated?

For example, Dinda, who is a professional with many degrees, works in the Human Capital division where her main task is to be a “mouthpiece”company.However, Dinda always felt that she was the rightest (the smartest) so her thoughts and actions always clashed with those of other parties.It's sad to see such an egocentric attitude, isn't it "above the sky there is another sky?"

In contrast to Anton, a high-ranking official at a Multi National company, on his Instagram, the photos in his feed are only about his face and himself.I wrote this, it doesn't mean I have succeeded in making peace with my Ego, no!The ego is not only about us, but all the attributes that are attached to us, including what we believe.Ego is fanaticism about oneself, like the ancient Greek mythology about Narcissus, someone who fell in love with his reflection and kept looking at his face in a lake.Finally, because he kept looking in the mirror one day, he drowned and died because he admired his face for too long.There is another story that I experienced, one day, I asked our child to deliver food to a relative.When they got there, our relatives never stopped chattering, finally our son said goodbye and went home because he couldn't stand hearing the chatter.Annoying?Absolutely!

There are only a few people I have met who can always be at peace with themselves and their circumstances.If we could be like them, how much fun life would be.Of course we all know, when we die, we will not live again, meaning we only live once.Yes, only once, not twice, let alone a cat's life.What are the absolute steps we must take?so that this one life can keep us calm and peaceful?The answer is to live with a peaceful heart without being disturbed by anything.Without putting Ego first.What if some of the stories above were transferred to a situation where someone had to speak in public?Imagine, that person will talk about himself, his life, his likes, his dislikes, wherever, whenever and however long.I'm dead!

Seperti yang kita ketahui bersama bahwa manusia adalah mahluk sosial yang tidak dapat hidup sendiri, kita selalu membutuhkan orang lain, membutuhkan hasil kerja dari orang lain, termasuk semua alat yang kita gunakan dalam hidup ini, mulai dari smartphone, alat transpotasi, sampai genteng rumah kita. Ketika kesadaraan itu kita miliki, kepekaan itupun akan terus ada dan kita akan menjaganya baik-baik. Manfaatnya kita manusia akan hidup terus berdampingan dengan damai.  Semakin kita dapat mengatur Ego kita, kitapun kita dapat mengedalikan diri untuk dapat mengukur kapan harus bicara dan kapan harus diam. Agar ada kesempatan yang sama juga untuk mendengarkan cerita dari orang yang kita jumpai, ada yang bicara ada yang mendengar dan begitu sebaliknya. Bila kita dapat melakukannya terus menerus artinya kita sudah menikmati hidup yang hanya satu kali ini saja. Mari kita nikmati hidup dan rayakan!