Fixed Mindset dan Growth Mindset

By Erwin Parengkuan

Dalam banyak peristiwa, beberapa komentar yang sering kita dengar “pokoknya gue enggak mau tahu…harus ini dan harus itu” atau kalimat seperti ini “saya enggak mengerti, kenapa mereka malah diam saja tidak bilang saya langsung? Dan kenapa selalu saya yang disalahkan!”

Have we ever digested the sentence above, showing a person's mental attitude when they experience friction in their interactions.Indeed, each of us has a different level of ego.The bigger a person's ego, the more often the words above will be said.Everyone will have a tendency to defend themselves and create a strong fortress so that their personality is protected and not disturbed if friction occurs in communication.Those who often make demands feel right and do not introspect themselves and ask "Why did this happen and where did I go wrong?"is an example of a sentence with a person who has a fixed mindset.Meanwhile, people with a growth mindset will think like this, "What should I do so that this doesn't happen again?"

The explanation above shows that when someone has a fixed mindset, they do not want to accept other people's opinions or existence.Those who have a growth mindset always look from a broad perspective and look for the best solution.

Every interaction and communication we require is an open relationship, a relationship based on mutual respect and appreciation.We must be able to understand and comprehend every opinion of the person we are talking to.So that relationships that are established on the basis of respecting people's opinions will make the relationship harmonious and have a long-term relationship.We certainly realize that it is impossible to make someone change.Having an open mind/growth mindset will make us happier individuals, not demanding and blaming anyone.

Ketika kita selalu fokus kepada pemikiran fixed mindset, tentu kita sulit menerima pendapat orang lain yang berbeda dengan kita. Kita akan memiliki kecederungan menjadi pribadi yang sulit untuk berkomunikasi dengan terbuka dengan siapapun, cenderung memaksakan pendapat dan tidak mau menghargai pendapat dan keberadaan orang lain. Sedangkan komunikasi adalah sebuah seni yang memerlukan kemahiran dalam membaca situasi, menavigasi diri dan membangun hubungan dan membinanya terus menerus.

If we are surrounded by people who have a fixed mindset, of course we are the same as them.In every journal about personal development, someone who is successful in career and life is those who have a growth mindset.They always see with a 360 degree, wide viewing angle!Not only looking at what you feel or have, but continuing to explore your potential and having an interest in developing yourself and continuing to build good long-term relationships with everyone.They are always open to other people's input, even criticism.Criticism is spontaneous and honest, if we examine the substance of what they convey to us.We just have to be clever in sorting it out, which one is beneficial for our personal development or whether the criticism is intentionally to bring down our mentality.

When someone has good self-esteem, has self-respect and continues to evaluate themselves, of course everyone will have a growth mindset that will make them continue to grow.