Good or Bad Communication?
Do you like seeing someone fighting on the street and saying unpleasant words to each other?So that's what I mean by bad communication.If someone is in a bad mental condition, negative words are usually spoken.So when many participants ask me, how can we communicate well, my answer is that we have to be mentally good first then we can convey good words which can then become an "opening door" in building relationships with every person we meet.
Komunikasi memang memerlukan kemampuan kosa kata yang banyak agar dapat memilih kata yang paling tepat untuk disampaikan selaras dengan kalimat yang terucap, itupun hingga saat ini tidak semua orang mempunyai kemampuan mengolah kata yang baik. Seperti yang kita dengar penyebutan : kita yang harusnya kami, atau sebaliknya, atau penyebutan kata kalian kepada audiens yang lebih tua. Buat saya itu masalah tehnis yang dapat dipelajari oleh seseorang dengan cepat dengan membaca banyak buku dan peka terhadap definisi setiap kata. Sedangkan bila kita dalam keadaan mood yang sedang tidak baik, cenderung kata yang di pilih menjadi tidak enak di dengar, atau disampaikan dengan nada yang tinggi sehingga terkesan marah.
How can we control ourselves when communicating?The following are 3 tips that you can put into practice:
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Be aware of our role
Everyone has a role, like I am a father, I am a professional when we are at work, or when we are abroad, whose attributes will we be regardless of whether we are individuals representing the country, yes we are Indonesian citizens.That's a simple example when we are basic about our role, who we are, of course we will become more aware of the role we have to play wherever we are.
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Think about the purpose of the communication
When you leave the house, go to a place of activity, think about the sentences you will say only positive ones.If you are going to reprimand someone, use the "sandwich" technique, namely praise the positive things about them, then give input, and close with the hope that the person will do what you expect and don't forget, give supporting words.So if you think about saying negative words, it's better not to say them.
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Keep opening your mind
Banyak sekali sumber bacaan, referensi yang dapat membuka wawasan anda, selain buku, ada www.tedx.com, pinterest, even subscribe to masterclasses to see great people share a wealth of experience and knowledge with us.
Let's continue to grow, become open, fun people, because we will be happier being close to positive people, and if you have nothing to say, say nothing!
Erwin Parengkuan
TALKINC Founder