Communication Pillar Integrity

By Erwin Parengkuan

What makes us feel uncomfortable with someone?Reluctant means we are reluctant and don't do as we please, for example if we are invited to eat by a figure we respect, then we will guard our attitude and words to them.
The massive amount of information that is floating around on our timeline, with the noise that is there, makes it difficult for us to digest what is important because it has inspirational weight or is just passing by because it is very commonly discussed everywhere.Including the figures who brought it.
At that time I was sent a link from one of the KOLs and this figure talked about how someone must have a humble attitude in order to be successful, but he was talking on his private plane.I laughed amusedly seeing the content of the content which was the opposite of the one who brought it.

One of the factors of failure in a relationship occurs because we don't see the figure as someone we can respect, that person doesn't carry out what he says to us, the term is walk the talk!Just talking but not following through with actions like what was said.For example, in the office or nearby environment, we often hear someone say they have to be open and honest, but the person concerned often says lies and is manipulative.

Ketika kita bicara tentang komunikasi, kita juga ingin apa yang kita ucapkan menjadi bermakna dan berdampak atas apa yang kita ucapkan karena apa yang kita sampaikan sangat sesuai dengan apa yang kita lakukan juga, walk the talk, bukan omong doang. Sayangnya semakin banyak orang yang ingin tampil menarik dan sempurna tetapi melupakan soal nilai integritas yang harus dimilikinya sebagai sebuah nilai utama yang sangat penting dimiliki seseorang sebelum ia dapat memberikan pengaruh positif kepada lawan bicara.

So what if we don't know them, we just meet and talk to them, can we find out whether someone has integrity or not?Although the answer may not be 100%, it can give a little idea about the person.Look at the attitude he gives us, does it feel honest or fake?When he talks to us, does he tell us more about himself or is he also interested in getting to know us more?Maybe these two indicators can be early detection so that we can feel sincerity and honesty in communicating.Also look when he arrives late, does he apologize to us for waiting for him?

The integrity of our assessment of someone must be tested by time, a collection of values ​​that we get from our upbringing at home.The stronger the foundation of upbringing at home, the greater a person's potential to have integrity.An important value, for example about respecting fellow humans, respecting other people's opinions, not hurting and deceiving other people, etc.What if it turns out we don't get it at home?There are many examples of important values ​​that we can also get from other people, when we observe them and talk to them, is there any meaning that we get and can we bring to our lives?It could also be when we watch a film, read a book, or talk to/see an inspirational figure.

Of all the sets of skills that exist, such as a person's expertise, positive attitude, communication skills, open mind and others, in my opinion, integrity has the most important value for someone so that they can be respected by the person they are talking to.

We start from now on cultivating these important values, so that we can become strong figures and become an inspiration for the people around us.