Just Another Monday

By Erwin Parengkuan

A deep and interesting discussion when I hosted a session with leaders from digital platform companies, where we talked about how someone can change to become the best version of themselves, especially when meeting new people for the first time and wanting to build long-term relationships.I say that one of the most important things is to be a 'pleasant' person.One participant admitted that he had difficulty giving appreciation as an indicator that someone could be said to be pleasant.Make him every day is Just Another Monday!It doesn't mean that he doesn't pay attention to the person he's talking to, but he's afraid of being irritated, and afraid of making a mistake if he immediately gives that appreciation, besides it's not a habit, so he just keeps it to himself.Maybe some of you still have such doubts.Carry out business as usual rituals when meeting new people, no bonding, and no personal touch.

Will this kind of behavior be remembered by the person you are talking to?Certainly not!Generally all logical people will do the same thing over and over again.As one professional said the same thing, "Why give appreciation if it turns out we can't give weight to every word we say in the context of work?"I then give them options.Which one to choose?Has weight but no personal approach, or is it fun but has no weight, or is it fun and has weight?

Everyone has the hope of always being cared for.In a journal about mental health issues that was just released recently;said that after the pandemic ended, many people in the US felt increasingly lonely and as a result made them feel like life was meaningless.They become frustrated, apathetic and try to end their lives.This situation is more worrying than generative diseases etc.This means that as social creatures we must maintain relationships with everyone, the closer the relationships we maintain, the happier a person will be.This research also reveals that the longer we interact only on social media, the more a person becomes depressed and empty of soul.

None of us wants to live an unhappy life.So try from now on to train yourself to be more attentive to the people we meet.One participant also responded with a statement, "What if the other person's response is flat? or he doesn't budge? This will make us even more afraid of paying attention!"another participant in the session provided a good explanation, "As long as we are sincere in conveying it, we don't need to worry about the appreciation we give, regardless of whether the person receives or gives a response that is not what we expected!"

There is a very beautiful term, namely "giving without expecting". This will help anyone to learn to receive, give without expecting which of course will make us not have any expectations of anyone.I think that statement is a very wise philosophy.We will finally be a pleasant person wherever we are, more sincere.As long as we do this from the heart and don't expect anything, our soul will grow bigger, we will become people who always think big and in the end we will hone ourselves into superior human beings with a strong mentality and an open mind.

Let's continue this good intention so that our souls are fulfilled to become better selves from time to time.We don't let our mood control us and have full awareness to continue sharing, so that our Mondays are not like most people's Mondays.