Public Speaking Skills: Become an Attractive Personality

We must have met people –people who fall into this category: they become 'magnets' wherever they are.This People magnet has an attractive impression, so that people –people around him want to see, listen and chat with him.Now I want to dissect what are the elements that can make someone attractive so that we can be like them?

In recent times the presence of an actress named Gwyneth Paltrow in court in Utah, US.At that time he won a case over an accident playing sky in 2016, all the ink skin failed to focus because his appearance was low key or there was a new term that emerged, namely quite luxury where someone appeared in simple clothes, did not show labels from famous brands or glitter, but was very down to earth.Apparently appearance can be the first thing we see when we meet someone, including their body movements.Body language is the easiest symbol to detect someone's self-confidence.From body language you can see whether someone is confident (PD), arrogant, afraid, doubtful, etc.

Returning to the matter of appearance and brand, there are also those who say that if you use branded goods, PD will immediately increase.But in my opinion, this is not 100% decisive, in fact it can be concluded that what determines is the first impression.When we meet someone who looks like a walking boutique, our focus is divided on all the brands on their body, so it will appear that the person really stands out for what they are wearing, but this does not necessarily make someone attractive, especially if it is supported by inappropriate body language.Because communication is an art, and every person should be able to position themselves well, not stand out but be right wherever they are.

The charm that someone displays will certainly be felt when he greets us, there is a sincere smile radiating from his eyes, and can be seen from the pull of his lips.Via p–This makes us feel privileged through that glow, even though in fact we can feel various kinds of smiles, whether sincere, bitter, cynical or seemingly forced —It is said that there are more than 50 types of meaning of a smile.When we start a conversation with those who fall into the category of interesting personalities, we see that this person always has more listening abilities than the person he is talking to.Those who are not self-centered will certainly be interesting interlocutors.

Not long ago I attended a dinner invitation from an old friend, and met new people which is always fun for me because we will exchange new stories/information.Unfortunately, an invited guest who was sitting right next to me, never stopped talking, he just had something to say.Meanwhile, I really wanted to be involved in the discussion that was taking place at the dining table.This person did not give me the opportunity to enjoy the conversation that was taking place at that time, he continued to tell stories, connecting one story to another.

So when we want to be an attractive person, the first element is the appearance that we have to adjust, having a feeling of comfort with ourselves wherever we are is the next key that will make us feel free to move our body language.We have to hold back the feeling of wanting to tell stories about ourselves.Don't forget, when communicating we have to have self-awareness to control it, because other people also want to hear their stories.Of course there are times when we talk, there are times when we listen, this will make other people happy with us.Plus of course we will be more attractive if we have good communication skills, can control the tempo of our speech, and don't forget that the conversations we have do not contain negative content/gossiping/cornering other people.

The wider our knowledge, the easier it is for us to 'connect' with anyone.So an interesting person is a person who can make other people feel special, a person who is not dominant, and is always in line with the rhythm of the conversation and has the same portion as the person he is talking to, and what he says can be an inspiration for other people.If it's like this, we will definitely be happy to continue meeting figures like this.Come on, be an interesting person!

Penulis: Erwin Parengkuan
Editor: Alyezca Disya Rahadiz