Building relationships with “pick up lines.”

Mungkin anda asing dengan istilah yang sering di sebut-sebut oleh mereka yang ada di area Sales ataupun Marketing. Istilah “pick up lines” adalah ketika kita bertemu dengan orang baru, kita dapat memulai sebuah kalimat yang akan menjadi pengantar kita dalam berkumunikasi dengan mereka. Istilah basa-basi adalah analogi yang sering disebutkan mengganti istilah ini. Jujur saya keberatan dengan istilah ini, karena menurut saya kata basa-basi sangat tidak relevan, cenderung berkonotasi negatif. Padahal, kata pertama yang keluar dari mulut kita kepada orang yang kita jumpai menjadi penentu untuk sebuah kelancaran dalam berinteraksi.

Some time ago, while in class, someone from the Human Resources team told me that he would be sitting in class as an observer regarding the proposal that we had sent and he wanted to observe how the training was going.This woman informed that her team consisted mostly of Millennials, it was very difficult to open a conversation, they looked very stiff, too to the point, they wanted to immediately explain the products they would offer without “building a good rapport” with potential customers.I said that was indeed a challenge that I often encountered in class, someone who really uses logic, finds it difficult to build relationships, especially for those millennials who tend to speak in short words.

Have you ever remembered, in an intense conversation, where you were talking very fluidly with someone you had just met?Why is that?because of course that person when starting the conversation has made you interested because he really cares about you.Greeting you with heart makes you valuable.Still remember?Well, we sometimes forget that communication is knitting one heart with another heart, so the words “Pick Up Lines” must be everyone's attention.And this becomes crucial if we cannot “mapping”interlocutor, whether there should be more approaches with the heart from the first sentence or just enough as an opening because our interlocutor doesn't really “feeling”because they are very “thinking.”

The following tips can help you start an interesting conversation.The first thing to remember is that everyone feels they are more important than other people.So with a simple question “How are you sir/madam today?”.After “a simple how are you?”then we can continue by choosing the following questions which can be a long way to “building report”you're like, how's your family doing?(you have to be careful with this question, see if they are comfortable or not? Where are they coming from? If it comes from Americans they usually avoid personal questions).Ask about their work?This will spark an interesting discussion, or look for things in common about the entertainment venues he likes, food, tourist attractions, etc.Don't forget to insert words like “may I know?”.Good luck, remember only a perfect practice will make perfect.

Erwin Parengkuan
TALKINC Founder