SELF CONCEPT: Who am I?

Oleh Erwin Parengkuan

A story from last week's session made me keep this thought for several days. It feels like everyone should already know who they are and what kind of self-concept they want to display, but during that session, a leader who could be said to have a high position and always meets a wide network openly said, "I don't know who I am? I often ask myself, who am I? But I'm always confused about finding the answer!"From the outside, this leader looks tough and calm.But who knows what's in a person's heart?

Bisingnya hiruk-pikuk dunia ini telah membuat kita lebih banyak melihat ke luar daripada ke dalam diri. Kegalauan semacam ini tentu bukan hal baru, semakin banyak kita terus melihat ke luar, akan semakin sulit kita menentukan konsep diri kita. Contoh di atas tidak menyinggung soal seseorang yang masuk kategori people pleaser, melainkan murni ketika hidup kita terlalu bising dan dikelilingi oleh orang-orang yang tidak otentik tentu semakin besar potensi kelalauan tentang konsep diri ini.

Menurut saya, ada banyak kesempatan yang dapat kita ambil untuk menemukan tentang cara membuat konsep diri, sebelum saya uraikan, 4 faktor penyebab ini dapat memicu seseorang tidak mengetahui siapa dirinya:

• Surrounded by fake people
• Hedonic lifestyle
• Tidak memiliki waktu dengan dirinya
• And too afraid of being called ugly by other people.

Some time ago a friend also confided in me, he said almost the same thing as the example above.He feels tired because he follows too many other people's requests, serves other people and often forgets himself.It seems that the noisier our lives are, the more difficult it is for someone to ask questions about their self-concept.

The following 5 steps can help you who may still need help in forming a whole self-concept:

1. Self-Power
Write down the things that are our strengths.The things we believe 100% are within us.It is not an achievement but an action/behavior that we always do naturally arises from within.For example, I am someone who learns quickly, is open, etc

2. Meditation
It cannot be denied that we will find talking to ourselves and listening to ourselves in moments of meditation.Be quiet and still for 5 minutes, or even more time.Having time to meditate every day will help us be calmer in facing the various demands of this world.Try to determine how long we will meditate and focus on our breath.Choose the best time, whether in the morning before activities or at night before bed.Everything we do in silence, such as reading a book, in solitude enjoying the beauty of nature is a form of meditation

3. Positive Environment
Research who the people around us are.Are they genuine friends to us?Write down the 5 people closest to you, try to see what good things we have given them, and vice versa.If there aren't any, we could be in an unhealthy friendship environment

4. Have a mentor
Look for a mentor who can train us in honing our skills.We can ask our superiors at the office once a week for 30 minutes to help us unlock our potential.Or if you don't have anyone to rely on, look for other social circles.A good mentor is someone who refers to goodness

5. Life Goals
If we have implemented the four factors above, start making notes in our journal about the life goals we will achieve.Short term, medium and long term goals.Occasionally take the time to go back to it and even revise it.

Dengan 5 langkah membentuk konsep diri tersebut, diharapkan kita lebih mengenal siapa diri kita sebenarnya. Tidak ada lagi kebingungan dan muncul pertanyaan “Siapa saya?”, beranilah untuk menunjukkan diri dengan bangga dan menyatakan “ini loh saya”.

Editor: Alyezca Disya Rahadiz