The Important of Achieving Flow

Oleh Erwin Parengkuan 

Bruce Lee once mentioned the term “be water my friend.”It means be like flowing water.This is also what anyone always wants every time we have a conversation.We want conversation that flows with a clear goal, a clear path.Like flowing water from upstream to downstream.

How How can we be like water?Of course the strategy will do it our conversation flows.A flowing conversation provides many benefits There are so many things, apart from respecting the person we are talking to, we can understand everything the needs that we expect to be expressed by the interlocutor, in accordance with the strategy that we are preparing. 

Pg What can we prepare?Here are 6 tips that you can do:

1.Mapping dan Profiling

Know First of all, who are the people we are talking to, culture, position, etc the personality of the person you are talking to.This is the absolute first step done.A kind of navigator that will determine the point of getting to know who you are them.

2.Set the Goal with Plan A-B

Determine the purpose of the conversation, is it just to get information, do you want to make clarifications, want to inspire or provide motivation to interlocutor.Make plans A and B, in case the conversation doesn't go according to plan we hope, for example, that the conversation stops for one reason or another, or the interlocutor is not “in the mood”even suddenly changed the topic conversation.It would be better before the meeting takes place, inform First of all, the purpose of the meeting.

3.No Interaption

Don't Occasionally interrupt what they are saying, be patient be a good listener.

4.Be Present

Focus to the time when speaking, attention to facial movements, language his body, listen carefully to the intonation of the voice, the rise and fall or the emphasis on certain keywords conveyed.Forget your life problems a moment to be fully present 100%.

5.Active Listening

Give it approval by nodding, saying “agree”will those words delivered.Several times repeat the keywords they have conveyed with Your goal is to listen to it 100%.That will give a positive response to him, and will make the other person will continue to tell the story everything that was in his mind.Look for similarities, these words can be you agree, as the words ”Yes, I'm like you, or yes, me too do the same thing.If the speaker has found a lot in common, Of course the flow of conversation will flow better.

6.Using Magic Words

No It can be denied, sometimes we are impatient and then interrupt the conversation. For that reason, forget to say the words “sorry, I cut”and don't forget give appreciation such as thank you for the time given, happy meet you etc.