To Find Your BEST SELF

Give yourself the best results and continue to grow, there is no giving up!I often say these words in every training for participants.Maybe you have heard or often heard these words.One Sunday morning when I had a great desire to write regularly, I was still confused about what to write, a kind of "writer's block" virus that lost its style, I wanted to write but didn't know what to write.My perspective, I want to write something different from previous writings, but what?Until I sat in a corner in my favorite place to read a book on the terrace of the house while looking at the plants growing abundantly and large trees of various kinds accompanied by the chirping of birds and a gentle breeze and I started to continue reading a book entitled "The 5 am Club" by the famous motivational speaker Robin Sharma who has sold 15 million copies all over the world.In one chapter, a conversation between an artist and a beggar is told, and the beggar says what he got from the teacher: "To find your best self you must lose your weak self."Reading these words I immediately burned and various kinds of personal shortcomings appeared in my mind.A simple word, a contrasting word: Best and Weak are interrelated.So I then reflected on myself, how can someone become their best self without throwing away their weak self?

In the various jobs we do, human relationships are always the best bridge, whether in the office, at home, in the neighborhood, wherever, we cannot be separated from those relationships.And all the problems that arise will arise because of it, namely a relationship that is not harmonious will be the trigger for a problem.If this is left unchecked, the flame will certainly grow bigger.There are people who choose to immediately act to extinguish the fire regardless of how it is resolved, there are those who choose to avoid or run away from this situation.Humans are complex, but humans are also given the freedom to choose and determine based on their choices.When we understand how to solve a problem and solve it, we will be more relieved and happy.Likewise, if the problem is not resolved, our minds become increasingly burdened, life becomes more difficult.

While walking downstairs to grab my box of fruit in the fridge, my mind immediately referred to this post, and spilled it to you.I then thought, regardless of the problems faced with other parties, in order for someone to be their best self, they must know themselves first, get to know themselves first, they must really know the nature, character, behavior, competencies that we have, the good and the bad, honestly.I know that sometimes I still have high expectations of the people around me, hoping that they also have the same understanding as me, but I realize that everyone is not the same, so I have to throw away the feeling of wanting to control them, sometimes I like to get carried away by emotions when something doesn't go according to what I expected, and I have to throw away those emotions and be able to immediately control and overcome them.So when we are honest with the shortcomings that exist in ourselves, we will easily gradually eliminate them.

It will be very difficult for someone to want to create the best version of themselves but not have awareness of the weak things that exist within themselves and of course will continue to exist and be maintained.A sentence from that book has become my biggest motivation not to be careless about the weaknesses we have, to throw them away... so that there is new space to create our best selves.Have you reflected on your own weaknesses to become your best self?

By Erwin Parengkuan